Thursday, September 17, 2009
In Desperate Need of Some Advice and Help...
Braeden has turned into a little stinker. If he doesn't get his way he will hit me and he throws a fit. What am I to do? He is only 10 months old. Please give me some advice and help. Thanks! I don't want to have a brat for a son! That will not happen.
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punish him when he hits you or throws something at you. don't give in though. i usually put the kids against the wall and set the timer for a minute or two. once the timer rings they know that time out is over. afterwards, i tell them why they were punished and ask them to say they are sorry to whomever they did wrong. if he is old enough to know what he wants and throw a fit b/c he doesn't get it, then he is old enough to start understand punishment. hope that helps!
When my 16 month old throws a fit or hits I tell him no, set him on the floor and walk away. I go just around the corner so he can't "see" me and leave him there until he stops throwing a tantrum. Hope that helps. Good luck!
our sons sound alike! Where do they get these things from? The most important thing is to be consistent. Both you and Ben need to do the same thing every time. This will teach him the fastest. It's the hardest thing ever, to stick to something and do it over and over. I know I've struggled with it. Time out is effective but tough, cause it seems like they don't know why they are on it. Sometimes I ignore Jaxon cause it seems like he;s doing it for attention or to get a rise out of me. If you do that, be sure to be SO enthusiastic when he does something good, so he can get his attention that way. Another thing I've heard is to not let them see you are frusturated and mad. Because that kind of puts them in control & they know it. Good luck! I know how hard it is! I'm still struggling with my devil child! I know there are books about these types of things, I read one in high school in Mr. Players AP Pysch class called "How to raise independent & self efficient children" or something like that. A lot of things from that stuck with me and I think about it all the time. You should read it. Hope this helps a little. I know I'm no expert but I can say I DEFINITELY know what you're are going through, and can relate 100%. I refuse to have an out of control bratty child!
p.s. don't listen to family members when they try to tell you he's too young to understand discipline or punishment! ARGGH!I hate that!
Okay, Kellen has started doing that too and he's only one month older than yours...I thought this didn't happen until they were around 2. Kellen's favorite thing to do is bite though so I flick his cheeck and tell him no. He doesn't like that. When he throws tantrums I just try to ignore him...but I'm sure there is something better I could do, but they're still too little to know what timer is.
like others have said, be consistent. He is small, and he is still learning, but you need to be firm in showing him that is not appropriate behavior. Tell him if he chooses to behave that way, he is choosing to sit in his crib. Then, let him sit in his crib until he calms down.
You've received some good advice! Consistency is the most important, like they all said, and letting him know in whatever way is appropriate for not only him, but his age - that what he did is not ok. It's hard when they're still so young! Good luck! (Prayers don't hurt, either! Nice to have the Lord on your side!)
Steph, I know, I've abandoned the blog world but im trying to reconnect. K I think that's crazy that Braeden is even 10 mos old! Ive been reading a lot of your past posts, and steph- he is soo cute! I would give you advice about his tantrums, except I have no idea what to do! I hope everything is going well for yall!
spank his butt!!!!!
don't spank his butt. . . spank jaelyns butt for saying that!! love jess
So I know that some of your comments say that Braeden is old enough to understand discipline, but I have to disagree. He's not even a year old yet. My advice is talk to your pediatrician and ask for age appropriate strategies. And seriously, Braeden is a sweet heart and he's just starting to learn social behaviors. If you are really struggling, I've found that "front-loading" your instructions and rules work the best. Give him plenty of pre-instructions before he does anything, etc. But seriously, don't sweat it. He's a sweetie!
well..i fight that still..evie doesn't hit that much..but i punish her. I grab her firmly..not mean..but just to show I mean business..then and speak to her..I get down on her level and talk to her and explain that what she did was a bad choice..then I put her in the corner..I still have to hold her there..she doesn't like it..but hopefully it will click one day. I just keep explaining what she did was wrong..and tell her how it makes me feel...who knows if I am doing more harm than good..but I think if you pick one way..stick to it...be consistant..by the way..your fam pics are SO dang cute...we have so many like that! makes for fun memories:) love you!
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